A pencil on a notepad
Coping Skills

Make a List!

  • Video Game Addiction
  • Cabra Web Services website needs to be finished
  • Need to finish what I can of namiofkent.org’s new website
  • I am afraid of success
  • I am often hungry
  • Situation with [redacted]
  • Situation with [another redacted]
  • My car has body damage
  • Air conditioning doesn’t work
  • I am sleeping poorly

That’s my list. It’s quite a list, and probably not complete, but these are all the things that are bothering me right now.

I’m the sort of person who can handle high stress events one at a time, but if I have a lot of stressors, then even if they’re small stressors, it throws me off balance and that’s where I start to seriously suffer. A friend once noticed that about me, and I take it seriously because she’s right. I used friends to learn about myself, and now that she taught me that, I learned to make a list. But what use is the list? The solution is in another list:

  • Pray and light incense
  • Shower every day
  • Brush teeth frequently
  • Rethink various situations
  • Tons of affirmations
  • Get one step of namiofkent done at a time
    • Start with [redacted step]
  • Clean Room
  • Keep pushing forward with the business
    • Send email to [redacted]

This second list is a list of things I can do right now. This very moment, I can light incense in my room and pray. I did that when I first wrote this. I tend to shower every other day because I read that that’s best for your hair and that sort of thing. But showering feels good, so I’m going to do it every single day now. It might sound gross, but I really hate brushing my teeth. I don’t know why I’m so weird about it, but it’s a struggle of mine. Pushing forward and doing that for myself helps me feel good about myself.

The two situations with people whose names I redacted are hard situations, but I’m able to fight negative thoughts about them. It took some time to get that through to me but it’s working.

I then did the most important thing for myself. I told myself that I can choose to look at this as a hard time in my life, or I can choose to look at my life as a current success because these things are getting handled one by one. Once I did that, the sense of dread about life ended. This skill of writing a list is something I’ve been doing recently and it’s changing my life. I wanted to share it because all people, not only peers, can potentially benefit from this technique.

I’m still learning, and my life is changing for the better. 

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Joe reid
July 3, 2019 at 3:07 am

Hey man! I love lists! Great insight.

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